Looking at Anxiety

Looking at anxiety can cause a lot of confusion for many people, as the way we are told it exists often isn’t true. Instead of telling you the same things that you’ve probably heard a million times before, I’m going to show you some concepts that have really helped my clients.

Once you understand anxiety this way, it will change the way that you look at anxiety forever.

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is basically part of our natural protection mechanisms. When we are in a situation that presents us with a threat or a danger, our natural systems alert us to this so that we can take action (or not). We are supposed to feel anxiety in certain situations. It is a natural feeling that has helped us and our ancestors to stay alive.

The problems with anxiety happen when this natural protection system becomes over-sensitive or is being fired in situations where there isn’t really a threat or a danger. If you are in a safe place and nothing is threatening you or your safety then there is no logical reason for you to feel anxious. Your subconscious mind and body don’t do logic though. Only your conscious mind deals in logic and this can be where some of the issues start.

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The conscious mind and the subconscious mind have different ways of looking at anxiety

A Conscious Way of Looking at Anxiety

When your conscious mind is looking at anxiety, it has to rationalise and make sense of it. It needs everything to be logical and ordered to understand. Whilst your conscious mind has the power to dive deep into complex understandings in order to find answers, it doesn’t understand how the body and subconscious mind are operating.

You have a feeling in your body (let’s call it anxiety) and your conscious mind wants to know why the feeling is there. It scans the environment looking for threats and dangers but can’t find any. It then gets frustrated and starts scanning backwards and forwards in time looking for what happened to you in the past.

“When did you last feel like this?”

Transderivational Searching

This process is known as….you guessed it…transderivational searching. Your mind scans back to times in the past that could be related to something you are dealing with in the present moment. It finds an event and gathers the information from that event. It then looks at the future potential outcomes related to where you are now and what could possibly happen in order to rationalise the feeling. It then starts to make stories (often with images) about how things could play out for you.

This then continues the initial feeling of anxiety you had and can also make it feel stronger than it initially was. A feeling on its own can’t last for very long. It needs the conscious mind to fuel it with stories in order to keep it going. Well done conscious mind. You’ve now taken a small feeling and turned that molehill into a giant mountain.

A Subconscious and Body Integrated Approach to Anxiety

The subconscious mind and your body are integrated as one. They both work together very well. While the conscious mind likes to pretend it is in charge of everything, it really isn’t. Everything starts in the subconscious and body then the conscious mind jumps in and creates thoughts to match what is already happening.

Your body and subconscious mind notice a feeling in the body and are more like…

“Oh there’s a feeling”

Now your subconscious can be much more abstract when it comes to reasoning and the storing of memories. It is much more based on feelings than logic. It will sometimes connect a bunch of memories together based on how you felt. Imagine a set of children’s blocks standing on top of one another. The bottom block is the first time your body held onto that feeling and each block up is each time it has held onto that feeling or a similar one that it has put in the same box as the initial one.

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Your body will tend to store unresolved feelings

Why Does The Body Store Past Negative Feelings

Your body will store negative feelings when you have been through an experience and the issues weren’t resolved. Now, it isn’t always necessary for you to release every negative feeling as it happens. Sometimes you have to go away and think about it. Sometimes you need to learn something in order to release the feeling. Sometimes you need to be able to forgive or let go in order for the feeling to release. Sometimes it can be that your mind believes that the feeling is too much for you to handle so it locks it down in the body. Simply allowing the feeling to come up and experiencing it in its entirety can often be enough to release it.

What Are Negative Feelings?

The straightforward answer is that there are no such things as negative feelings. There are just feelings. Once you can grasp this concept, life will become so much easier for you. The negative feelings are often showing you what you need to work on and resolve from your past. If you are going through grief or loss then you need to feel that in its entirety. If you don’t then you’ll end up with a trapped emotion inside of you causing you issues.

People refer to negative feelings or emotions as the ones that they don’t want to feel.

  • Anger
  • Sadness
  • Hurt
  • Jealousy
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Loss

There is nothing at all wrong with these emotions. In their proper place, they are there to guide us and help us to do what we need to do. They can lead us out of where we are and into where we need to be. When you can love depression as much as you do happiness and joy, life will open so many more doors for you.

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All “negative” or “bad” feelings are rooted in the past

How Our Present Anxiety is Rooted In The Past

So you have a feeling inside of you that your mind has labelled as anxiety. This feeling has a birthing point. A time when it was first experienced by you. The unresolved feeling always stays at the same age as when it was created. If you first experienced anxiety at 5, each time that you feel it in the future, you will go back to having the coping mechanisms of a 5-year-old in order to deal with the situation that you are currently in.

Imagine trying to deal with being anxious as a 5-year old. At that age, you have very limited skills and are in no way as skilled as you are now. Yet this is what happens to you every time that you experience anxiety.

Imagine for a moment that you have a brand new computer. When you get it out of the box and start it up everything works beautifully. You install some software onto it to perform certain tasks and these too work really well. Imagine how well that computer would run if you didn’t update the software on it for 5 years. Now imagine not updating it for 20 years, 30 years, 40 years even.

This is how your mind and body are running when it comes to those unresolved emotions. You are literally running without those out of date and buggy programs causing issues in your life. Some issues you will be aware of and some issues you won’t be. Isn’t it about time you gave yourself an upgrade? You’re worth that, right?

Looking at Anxiety Upgrades for Your Body and Mind

In order to receive these upgrades, we have to start looking at anxiety and where it comes from for you. We need to bring the adult self and help the child self to release the old feeling. Whatever it is that needs to be altered for you to release the old programs we will do. We look at what needs to be put into place for you to be able to change how you perceive that feeling in the future.

Remember, there is no such thing as a bad feeling and anxiety in its true form is there to keep us safe. We never look at getting rid of something that is there to keep us safe. We just learn how to use it correctly. Think dialling down that over-sensitive car alarm so that it can tell the difference between a bus going past and someone trying to break into your car.

Looking at Anxiety and How it Could Be Affecting Your Life

Here is a great video for you to watch about various scenarios of how anxiety could be affecting your life. It can really help you to have a different way of looking at anxiety.

Are You Ready to Receive Your Upgrades?

If you have had enough of your thoughts and feelings being in control of you and you are ready to take back control I’m here. We can work together to release the old buggy programs that have been causing you issues and bring in the new programs that can help you to feel much safer, more peaceful, grounded, centred and balanced than ever before.

You can either tap here to go to the contact page or you can give me a call or text on 07932 618988.

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Muscle testing is a great way for you to be able to bypass the critical thinking part of your mind and go deeper into the subconscious to find those answers that you are looking for.
Sometimes we do or say things that we know that we shouldn’t do. You can muscle test to find out what is driving your subconscious mind.

somatic therapy leeds west yorkshire uk

Somatic therapy is a body orientated approach to mind-body healing. By looking at where the trauma is being stored in your body and releasing it, you are able to see quicker, positive jumps forward in your mental health and wellbeing.

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Theta Healing is a form of energy healing where the practitioner connects to the Creator (source energy) and helps you heal using that energy. Previously most energy healing was done face to face. Now you can receive all of the benefits via Theta Healing online sessions.
The Thetahealing technique is a perfect blend of energy healing along with regular coaching and therapy skillsets. You aren’t going to be getting just one of the things. Instead, you will receive a complete body, mind and spirit cleansing of old attachments, old beliefs, trauma, spiritual healing with intuitive releasing of your old limiting belief.

Healing and Therapy for PTSD

People who have faced a traumatic or tragic situation in the past usually think they’re fine and moving on from that with no problem at all––until they suddenly wake up in the middle of the night and feel like they are in danger. This could actually be a sign of post-traumatic stress disorder or, simply, PTSD.

shifting energy healing leeds

Contrary to what most people believe in, positive thinking doesn’t really do much in framing your reality. Shifting your energy through energy healing can alter your thoughts and transform your life in the process.

But how is energy healing best explained?

Understanding Energy Healing

The body consists of interconnected systems that even the slightest imbalance can disrupt its function and flow of energy. This imbalance and disruption contribute to negative feelings, thoughts and illness. Through energy healing, the energy flow in your body will be aligned and treat any obstruction that causes you to have ill thoughts and feelings. 

In simple terms, your body will be cleansed of negative energy, which will positively affect your physical, mental and spiritual wellness. Energy healing will impact the way you conduct relationships, handle adversities and changes and connect with people around you, whether you like them or not.

Here are some reasons as to why shifting your energy field is best done through changing your thoughts:

Energy Is Your Thoughts’ Building Block

Whatever belief or notion you’ve had over the course of your life is stored in your chakras as energy. Energy healing balances chakras. When your chakras are aligned, you’ll have fresh perspectives that will affect your thoughts, experiences and beliefs.

Aside from repeating affirmations, also consider these energy healing modalities:

  • Integrated Energy Therapy
  • Psych-K
  • Reiki

These can support manifestation through making a connection with your cellular memory, chakras, and subconscious.

Cords can keep us attached to people in our present and our past. Cord cutting is a useful tool to sever the energetic ties that bind us. Photo by Erwan Hesry on Unsplash

Positive Thoughts about Someone Will Not Cause Karmic Tie Healing

Unconsciously, some people could create cords of attachment that are energetic, which will affect your energy through draining. For as long as that cord has some attachment to you, then your hold on power isn’t full. 

There are people in our lives that can trigger specific thoughts and feelings. Some people trigger positive emotions, like family and close friends. However, there are those that stir chaos from within us, like an old friend who betrayed you or a childhood bully that caused you trauma. If you feel like your energy is drained whenever you think about that person or whenever they are around, going into a three-week cord-cutting meditation might help. 

Cord-cutting is a practice where you recall power through space and time. Through this, any energy that’s not actually yours will finally be released.

The moment you start trying it out, pay attention to whether or not your energy field gets stronger. Reframing your perspective on this person will help with emotional intelligence development. This will bring a positive effect on your relationships and how you connect with other people around you. Energy healing is able to complement this transformation by handling spiritual, physical and emotional bodies.

Conclusion

Energy is an incredibly powerful thing that can affect the overall health of a person, from physical to spiritual. Simply changing one’s thoughts can help shift an energy field. This is because simply thinking positive thoughts on someone won’t heal karmic ties; energy is the building block of thoughts in the first place.

Looking to experience energy healing in Leeds? I’m here to help! I’m Paul Ramsden. Let me work with your energy symptoms to help you experience life-changing shifts.

3 signs of depression

Depression can become so overwhelming and debilitating that it can be almost impossible to function. Completing simple, everyday tasks like bathing and eating become too much to bear against the sheer weight of depression, which often feels like a hopeless pit in your stomach or like an elephant is sitting on your chest. 

The worst part about depression is that it doesn’t discriminate. Even if you seem like a person who “has it all” and with everything anyone could want, you can still suffer from crippling despair and sadness, like how healthy people can still find themselves with terminal illnesses. Fortunately, there are many ways to help deal with depression, with hypnotherapy being a practical solution available to anyone who needs it. 

Here are the common causes of depression and how hypnotherapy can help you overcome them:

  1. Feelings of Unworthiness
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Depression often leads to feelings of being unworthy and not being good enough.

Feeling like you don’t deserve your good fortune or your dreams and desires often leads to depression. Thanks to the Internet, we are more exposed to other people’s accomplishments, and we pay particularly more attention to those who look like they’re doing much better than we are. As a result, we feel pressured to do more and be more because, as we are, we aren’t enough.

The truth is that even the most revered, beautiful celebrities have suffered from having to look perfect all the time, especially women. Like Rita Hayworth and Ava Gardner, who were renowned for their allure and beauty, well-loved icons have all chosen to live life away from the spotlight because of the sheer pressure of maintaining a perfect façade. Actors and athletes feel the same pressure as well, believing that they need to ‘keep performing’ to continue the charade of constantly feeling happy and ‘having it all.’

However, hypnotherapy can help you address these beliefs by guiding you through your thought process and uncovering why you don’t believe you are worthy enough. By untangling your thought patterns and sifting the negative from the positive, you’ll eventually realise that you are, indeed, deserving of everything you want, even your wildest dreams. By addressing the root of the matter, you can gain the confidence you need to get up and pursue your goals and live the life you’ve always wanted.

  1. Adhering to Other People’s Ideals of Happiness

Until recently, the popular notion of happiness involved having a partner, children, material wealth, and a successful career. However, the path to these is often lined with making choices that sometimes do not make you feel comfortable. As a result, you may ignore your inner thirst for goals like establishing yourself as an interior designer, a music producer, or a football star in favour of more traditional pathways, like getting into corporate finance. After all, that’s what you’ve been told is the key to success, right?

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Trying to please others means diminishing your own needs and desires.

However, not following your heart’s desire and adhering to society’s ideals of happiness has been proven to make you feel miserable. Many people have reported feeling depressed because they did not pursue the career they knew they were meant for, causing them to suppress their love for things that genuinely make them happy. However, by seeing a hypnotherapist, you can undo the beliefs that made you think that there was no other way to be happy than by following society’s ideals. Working with a professional will help you unpack the thoughts and perspectives that hold you back from what you truly want to do, allowing you to live a life without regrets.

  1. Unhealthy Lifestyles

Regularly consuming junk food and staying sedentary is not only bad for your physical wellbeing, but your mental health as well. Unfortunately, depression can lead you into a vicious cycle, where it becomes too difficult to take care of yourself, so you allow your physical health and hygiene to deteriorate. However, it’s essential to realise that you are always in control of what you eat, think, and do, no matter how impossible it may seem.

What you put into your body directly affects how you feel, and hypnotherapy can help you make healthier choices to improve your overall wellbeing. It can change your views and perspectives, helping you believe that exercising regularly, taking care of yourself, and eating the right foods will allow you to lead a healthy, fulfilling life.

Conclusion

Depression is a widespread phenomenon affecting millions of people worldwide, which means that you likely know a few people who have grappled with it. However, by understanding its typical causes and seeing a hypnotherapist to help you recover, you can clear negative energy and put yourself on the right path to living a life you love.
Paul Ramsden specialises in energy healing in Leeds, helping people overcome their fears, anxieties, and depression through hypnotherapy. He works with his patients’ energy symptoms, enabling them to experience life-changing shifts in their consciousness. Schedule an appointment with him today to change your life!

Healing body trauma therapy Leeds

Most people associate emotional trauma with only mental wounds, believing that it doesn’t manifest physically. However, the reality is that the stress and trauma we carry in our minds often presents themselves in our bodies, even when we don’t realise it. It becomes body trauma, which requires transformational energy healing to address.

Anxiety has been on the rise since the pandemic has wreaked havoc on the world. More people feel overwhelmed and panicked at the seemingly endless amount of negative news on TV and social media. Some have even said that they have started to feel sick due to their distress. As a result, more and more people are experiencing body trauma and are at a loss with addressing it.

Understanding Body Trauma

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Your body will hold on to past traumas until they are resolved and released. Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash

Feeling upset and scared doesn’t necessarily have to come from situations that directly affect you; mere exposure to traumatic information from the media you consume is often enough to traumatise you. Your body will be wired to anticipate and evade threats constantly, even when there aren’t any immediate ones present. This constant strain on yourself ultimately leads to body trauma. Survivors of accidents, abuse, and other tragic events have even more difficulty processing this, given their already existing trauma.

Humans are programmed to respond to danger in three ways: fight, flight, or freeze. When you experience a traumatic event, your body commits this feeling to memory, along with the defence mechanisms it has set to fight the trauma. These are kept in the chemicals in your body associated with emotions. By storing memories that contain signs of danger, your body can respond more immediately, helping you avoid threatening situations more easily. However, this fight-or-flight energy can get jammed in your body, overwhelming you and preventing you from responding correctly.

Dealing With Body Trauma Through Transformational Energy Healing

Traumatic experiences do not occur gently or slowly; a surge of strong emotions often accompanies them. While it is imperative to process these emotions healthily, such as crying, resting, or even exercising, traumatised people usually cannot act upon them. Thus, the body looks for an alternative way to express this energy, such as flashbacks or bad dreams. It can even manifest physiologically through neck pains, headaches, and other health conditions. It also affects how you think and perceive your surroundings, making you feel inappropriate guilt and causing you to deem harmless situations as dangerous.

Since trauma changes your body and rewires your brain, you are more susceptible to more trauma. For you to address this adequately, you’ll need transformational energy healing, which will help your body reconfigure its defence system. It will work to relax your body’s response and inform you that you are not in danger, so there is no need to be on high alert. We communicate to your body’s consciousness through energy healing, ensuring it receives and comprehends that it is safe and that it should ease its guard. Once your body calms down, it will be much easier to address the mental and emotional parts of trauma, particularly when determining the emotional energies your body consciousness requires to recover and feel well again.

Conclusion 

Pursuing energy healing is a great step towards recovering from body trauma, particularly in an incredibly distressing and upsetting time. By focusing on the physiological aspect of the trauma, it will be more manageable to address the emotional and mental elements, providing you with a holistic healing method.

Paul Ramsden offers transformational energy and metaphysical healing in Leeds, working with people’s energy symptoms to help them achieve life-changing shifts in their consciousness. If you’ve been struggling with something for a long time, be sure to get in touch with me today to start transforming your life for the better.

coaching and therapy for sexual violence

Violence and trauma can leave deep scars on any person. Healing and coping are different for every person, especially when it comes to dealing with experiences related to sexual violence. 

Recovering from sexual violence is complex and can take many forms, as the term “healing” may have a different meaning for every survivor. But one thing’s for sure, when it comes to moving forward, survivors need to learn how to hold space for both their pain and the beauty of their resilience. 

A survivor experiences waves of emotions — often a mixture of different feelings all at once. Some feelings include hopelessness, surrender, heartbreak, and grief. Still, despite the blanket of despair, there is always a stream of love and gratitude that makes its way through the cracks and broken pieces. 

Though getting the latter may be quite challenging, it’s known that self-care practices, transformational energy healing, and coaching balances and centres the survivor’s mind and body, allowing them to find the gems in their innermost spaces and experiences. 

Breathing In Self-Compassion

One of the things healing and coaching teaches survivors is self-compassion and how it demands to be felt. With that being said, the process of learning self-compassion emerges in an organic and non-linear way, which often tests our patience, faith, and acceptance. 

There are numerous ways to practice self-compassion that integrate the body, mind, and spirit. The whole practice encourages you to focus on the space that you have and forces you to identify the sources of your resilience and remember to connect your core as you tread traumatic waters. 

Some survivors get the help of coaches and transformational energy healing specialists to help them work intentionally with their bodies and minds to breathe in light, self-compassion, and home, all while gravitating towards balance. 

Remembering That Scars are Stronger Than Skin

Clarissa Pinkola Estés, author of “Women Who Run With The Wolves,” said, “It is good to remember that in tensile strength and ability to absorb pressure, a scar is stronger than skin.”

One gets a scar after a wound heals, so this is the perfect analogy of what it is like from healing from sexual violence. When you get hurt, you learn new lessons and take with you the pain and experience that lead you to this moment, making you see your scars as a sign of survival instead of being broken. 

However, many people still think that some wounds may never heal, and the scar will always be there. But it’s also good to note that even if the scar is visible, the scar does not provide additional pain. With coaching and healing, survivors are taught to see scars in this manner and to see scars as a sign of resilience and strength. 

Trauma and Its Physical, Mental, and Spiritual Effects

Most sexual violence survivors don’t only experience physical effects; mental and spiritual consequences are brought along with the trauma. Abuse can undoubtedly leave an impact on a survivor’s health, including chronic stress, depression, low sex drive, fatigue, and are even at high risk for heart attack.

Other obstacles that survivors face are mental and eating disorders, all of which affect the survivor’s quality of life. For this reason, coaching and energy healing can help survivors cope with these effects and find light in surviving the abuse.

Final Thought: Coaching and Energy Healing Remind You That You Are Larger Than Life

Dealing with the wounds and trauma of sexual violence is a long journey that needs constant support. With coaching and transformational energy healing, survivors are encouraged to view themselves as large and powerful, focusing on their survival on incredibly traumatic events. 

In the end, healing is a collaborative effort where the coach and the survivor work together to create a safe space where the individual can grow and, although it may take time, release their wounds’ weight and heaviness. 

How Can Paul Ramsden Help You?

If you’re looking for transformational energy healing in Leeds, reach out to Paul Ramsden. 

Paul Ramsden works with energy symptoms to help clients and survivors experience life-changing shifts in their consciousness through transformational energy healing, energy bodywork, metaphysical healing, coaching, and more. Book an appointment today!

Spiritual healing in Leeds Centre

People get traumatised for different reasons, and its effect comes in varying degrees. In the UK, trauma remains the most common cause of death for people under 40, which encouraged the government to invest in trauma centres since 2012. While these institutions did improve the statistics, there will always be people who are not comfortable declaring or talking about their conditions. As such, it is essential to provide other pathways to recovery.

Facing trauma is challenging in and of itself, let alone experiencing it on your own—which is why you will notice that trauma healing is a primary topic they commonly talk about at spiritual healing events.

Why People With Trauma Prefer Spiritual Healing

People who rely on spiritual healing do so for the following reasons: 

  • Provide Holistic Healing: Some people combine therapy with spiritual healing. They do so because spiritual healing makes them feel more wholly healed. 
  • Deeper Healing: Some people choose to engage in spiritual healing to deeply access their thoughts and feelings that they can no longer process in standard talk therapy.
  • Validation Needs: Some patients may feel invalidated by medical professionals and therapists. Therefore, they look for other ways to heal themselves.

Why Invalidation Happens in Modern Treatment

Often, invalidation happens not only in the field of modern science. Even family and friends refute or kid around the experience of the trauma victims. 

In some therapists’ eyes, spiritual healing or intuitive experiences are often seen as a disassociation process from what the patients should be facing. They see practices such as meditation, prayer, visualisation, and other forms of energy practices as a process of disassociating the self with the reality they should learn to face and forego. 

Many therapists object to specific spiritual themes that may lead to victim-blaming, such as things happening for a reason, that there is a lesson to be learned for every incident, and so on.

It could be true in some sense; however, invalidation occurs when people do not respect how others’ minds work. Everyone is different and if believing in these concepts makes them feel better about their situation, denying them of that right is truly invalidating. 

Spiritual healing can give you a deep sense of release from past wounds and traumas.

Spiritual Healing’s Role in Healing the Victims

Developing bodily awareness serves as the core of every spiritual healing for trauma survivors. Understanding how their body feels for any modality helps them get to know the gentlest way to transition out of their situation. 

For most people relying on spiritual healing, the process made them feel like they belong. It provides them with a healthy space where they can feel at ease and safe, which is difficult to achieve for every trauma victim. 

Conclusion

Trauma is not an easy topic to discuss. It can affect a victim entirely, including their spirituality, perspective, purpose, and significance. Once their spirituality is shaken or disrupted, one of the best methods to improve their condition is to help them patch the shattered pieces back through spiritual healing. While spiritual healing works differently from modern science or talk therapy, it still can bring positive effects to many victims.

Experience energy healing in Leeds through Paul Ramsden. He is a metaphysical healer and coach who can help you experience life-changing shifts through transformational energy healing. Contact us through our form to learn how he can help.